While we are young, the family is the cornerstone of our basic needs: it is our first information to get to know the world. The family teaches us to think about ourselves and others. Also, our emotional foundations depend on how parents treat us, and what messages we receive from their behavior. Children are convinced that everything parents say is true and true.
When the parent makes a judgment about the child's core value, that thought becomes a fact in the child's consciousness. If parents tell their children that they are good, valuable, and loving, then they will form positive and confident thoughts. They will treat others well, because they will find that they deserve it. However, if parents' behavior is negative towards their children considering them worthless, then those children will harmonize their lives with such negative thoughts.
The negative beliefs that children create about themselves continue to persist into adulthood. For example, these negative self-thoughts prepare women to accept partner misconduct. As we develop our thoughts about ourselves, we identify with the mother and learn how females should behave toward males. Father, on the other hand, is our first model of how he treats our mother. That is, the parent report gives us a very important insight into how couples behave.
Neither film, television, nor school can be more influential teachers than our parents' daily lives. Parental behavior becomes a role model for us as we grow older. We receive many messages from parents' behavior. It is not necessary for these messages to be only verbal, but also with the interpretation of behaviors and statements in children. For example, some parents constantly interrupt the children they talk to and this means that their thoughts are irrelevant.
As children, because of addiction, we experience feelings of helplessness in the world we live in. If our family environment is uncomfortable or painful, we protect ourselves by promising ourselves that when we grow up we will treat our parents better. However, since we only know what we have learned as a child, as we grow older we continue to track the reports that provide security. Despite our convictions that we "will do it differently", we often end up copying situations and reports from childhood.
In adulthood we trace our past by remembering messages we received from parents. Although this can be a painful process, it helps us to change our behavior in the future.
When the parent makes a judgment about the child's core value, that thought becomes a fact in the child's consciousness. If parents tell their children that they are good, valuable, and loving, then they will form positive and confident thoughts. They will treat others well, because they will find that they deserve it. However, if parents' behavior is negative towards their children considering them worthless, then those children will harmonize their lives with such negative thoughts.
The negative beliefs that children create about themselves continue to persist into adulthood. For example, these negative self-thoughts prepare women to accept partner misconduct. As we develop our thoughts about ourselves, we identify with the mother and learn how females should behave toward males. Father, on the other hand, is our first model of how he treats our mother. That is, the parent report gives us a very important insight into how couples behave.
Neither film, television, nor school can be more influential teachers than our parents' daily lives. Parental behavior becomes a role model for us as we grow older. We receive many messages from parents' behavior. It is not necessary for these messages to be only verbal, but also with the interpretation of behaviors and statements in children. For example, some parents constantly interrupt the children they talk to and this means that their thoughts are irrelevant.
As children, because of addiction, we experience feelings of helplessness in the world we live in. If our family environment is uncomfortable or painful, we protect ourselves by promising ourselves that when we grow up we will treat our parents better. However, since we only know what we have learned as a child, as we grow older we continue to track the reports that provide security. Despite our convictions that we "will do it differently", we often end up copying situations and reports from childhood.
In adulthood we trace our past by remembering messages we received from parents. Although this can be a painful process, it helps us to change our behavior in the future.
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